Popular Nigerian author, Chimamanda Adichie, recently shared how the Catholic Church handled her parents’ funeral. She said the experience reaffirmed her reservations about the church.
In her piece which was published in the latest edition of the L’osservatore Romano weekly bulletin, Adichie alleged that the church did not treat her family with compassion, as they should.
She wrote, “My family’s experiences during my parents’ funerals served to reaffirm, if not renew, my reservations about the Nigerian church.
“So much could have been handled with compassion for the grieving but was not. So many opportunities to show dignity were left unused.
“Our communication with the local church was more of an exercise in priestly power than anything else; we begged and negotiated for a suitable funeral date, with an exaggerated but insincere deference shown to the priest lest he change his mind and not agree to the funeral.”
In the piece titled ‘Dreaming as a single family’, Adichie recounted how the priest criticised her during her mother’s thanksgiving mass.
She wrote, “At the Thanksgiving Mass — a strange concept, as giving thanks was the last thing I felt like doing a day after the funeral — my siblings and I were seated in the front pews, all wearing purple, my mother’s favorite color, all still in shocked disbelief to have buried her so soon after my father.
“I was immersed in sadness and did not realize right away when the parish priest began to criticise me about a press interview I had given a few months before.”
Adichie had spoken about the love of money in Nigerian churches months before her mother’s burial.
She went on to express her shock at the priest for criticising her at such a sad time in her life.
She continued, “After the interview, there was both criticism and support of my views, as one would expect, but I had not given that interview any thought in months.
“And so I was shocked by the parish priest standing at the altar and issuing a rejoinder, during my mother’s funeral, in terms so petty and so ill-timed as to trivialise the crushing enormity of her death.”